My partner's daughter left school at 16 last year. She's clever, she's pretty, she's nice, she's got everything going for her, but she left. Now she works in a clothes shop, for the mildly sociopathic mother of an ex-friend of hers. She's miserable, but somehow creating a C.V. and getting another job is too much effort.
Today I tried to ask why she was so hostile about college. The very best she could manage was 'college is stupid'. Suddenly she was 14 again, hissing like an angry schoolgirl. Only she's not even that any more.
When 'A'-Levels are being talked about as a waste of time - because so many students are getting four or more A grades, they're increasingly seen as not granular enough for University entrance purposes - what I find truly stupid is thinking that it's not even worth trying that far.
It's true that some people succeed brilliantly with no qualifications. It's also true that many more people who do have qualifications succeed; and (while it may be uncomfortable to hear it) it's also true that most people with crap qualifications go on to achieve precisely fuck all with their lives, and with a high likelihood of being miserable along the way. It's never, ever their fault that they couldn't be bothered when they were younger.
In my 'outside looking in' position it's nigh-on impossible to do anything about it, and rightly so; nonetheless, it's frustrating in the extreme to watch someone I love throw it all away so carelessly. Hoping that she's one of the lucky ones will have to be enough.
This has been a hard month. Hassles at work, hassles at home. I haven't had the will to write.